FEARFUL VS FEARLESS

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Don't let FEAR consume you!

Fear is everywhere-Fear is the biggest MIND FUCK of all time.

Fear is embedded in you when you are young enough to NOT know what fear is.

IT'S: Don't talk to strangers- which leads to being an INTROVERT and not trusting anyone.

ITS: Don't run to fast or you'll hurt yourself- which leads to walking with your head down instead of up and straight because, you don't want to slip or walk to fast or even run for fear of getting hurt. 

IT'S: Don't swim to far or you'll drown-which leads to either wanting to defy your parent and really going out there or being so fearful that you will never want to learn how to swim or go on a boat

IT'S: Don't have sex before marriage or you will go to hell-which leads to not being able to explore your sexuality and know what you want and how you want it and with who. Just because that person was you first doesn't mean they have to be your last. and don't get me wrong, i'm not saying be a hoe.. i mean.. just.. explore your options, cautiously...

I guess what i'm trying to say is... It's like we put it out there in the universe without wanting to.WHY? why are we taught to be fearful? Why aren't we taught to be Fearless?-------To... Embrace..Change..and- thoughts  because we are after all..different from everyone else. why would i want to be like everyone else? why would i want my children to be like everyone else? 
I often wonder if this was more of a culture thing? like, are all Latino families this way? or are all families of all cultures this way?

You See..To me..Different is..Beautiful,Unique,One of a kind.
So as I sit here writing/Speaking at 40ish years of age, I now know that feeling different was never a bad feeling to have, that being fearful of the known and unknown kept me from experiencing the beauty that is life. that it's never to late to try new things, even if it doesn't work out, go in with a positive mind set that you can do whatever the FUCK you please because, you don't want to look back at your life and regret NOT doing something out of FEAR.So Please, don't be fearful-be-fearless-embrace change.




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